You've seen it before, a marriage breakdown. It may not have even been you, but maybe you're parents, or a friend's parents. Perhaps even a friend and their spouse. But no matter where you've seen a marriage breakdown, you will decide at that point it's something you will never hope to experience for yourself.
Though a couple who is happy a lot of the time, may have a lot easier time working through marriage breakdown problems. It's a lot harder to want to quite a relationship in which you are always happen, with little down time. Or would you more quickly give up a marriage where you were always fighting? The answer is obvious in those two questions.
If it was your parents, you may have found out many of the problems that caused the marriage breakdown. But it's pretty hard not too as your listening to them yell most of the time around you. As a child there isn't much that you can do to help out, but just sit and hope your parents will make it through these times.
Money can cause a marriage breakdown too. In the economy many people lost their jobs or had hours cut. This created many problems in couples who were use to a certain income level. NO longer was the same amount coming in so at times the other spouse would need to take on another job, creating a tension that wouldn't have been there before.
Sex is another huge cause of marriage breakdown. It may just be because one of the partners is not feeling as amorous as normal. But when *** begins to lessen it's hard for either spouse to feel that it's caused by anything besides a lack of interest in the specific person. Perhaps a problem that shouldn't be that difficult to figure out, but with the hurt feelings it becomes a much bigger problem.
Perhaps when we begin to notice marriage breakdown it should be the point where you step up to your spouse and talk. Communication is such a huge part of any relationship, if you have this tool, you can work through anything. But once that communication has begun to wane you notice that marriage breakdown will occur more frequently.
Working through a problem with your loving spouse no matter what has caused it is something we all want to accomplish. But at the points in our lives that these problems happen we may not feel like fighting. That's when this marriage breakdown will end up as a divorce.
Finally, though we all know that marriage is hard work, it's still hard at times to push ourselves to work past certain problems. Cheating is one of the hardest things to overcome in marriage breakdown. It takes a very special person to be able to look past this and be willing to work with their spouse. Lack of trust will no doubt continue though.